We all have rights, but it can be hard to stand up for them if we don’t know what they are. Do we have the right to information about sex? Do people have to ask before they touch us? Do doctors have to keep our conversations with them private? Do two people have the right to date if they both say yes but a family member or staff disagrees with their decision? Do people have the right to have children if they want them? Can someone tell us we’re not allowed to be gay? What if someone wants to date us but we’re not sure how we feel about them? Who can we ask about this stuff?
It’s amazing how our bodies are able to feel pleasure – whether it’s the taste of ice cream, the feeling of petting a kitten, the sound of our favourite song, the smell of jasmine flowers, the sight of a beautiful sunset, or the emotions we experience when we spend time with a good friend.
Sex can also be pleasurable – whether we are masturbating by ourselves or having sex with someone else. But it can be harder to talk about sex than about ice cream or sunsets. So we might wonder: Should sex feel good for us? How do people make sex feel good / better? Is it ok for us to have sexual pleasure by ourselves (also known as masturbation)? What should we do if sex is pleasurable for our partner but not for us? How do we get comfortable with feeling this kind of pleasure if bad sexual stuff has happened to us? Who are the right people to ask about these things?